“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
How often have you heard or (and let’s be honest) said any of the following:
- Why hasn’t he called?
- Why doesn’t she like me?
- What did I do wrong?
- Maybe I should be different?
STOP THE MADNESS!!!
You need a reality check. Let’s begin with the obvious: earth round, water wet, fire hot. What do these things have in common with the list above? THEY ARE NOT ABOUT YOU.* As hard as it is to imagine, people are self-motivated and their behavior speaks to who they are. How you are treated speaks about them, not you.
The world is a big place and there is room for everyone; respect yourself and others, and do not waste any of your valuable time and precious energy worrying about the motivations of others….what they think isn’t any of your business, anyway.
“I’m too old to go chasing around, wasting my precious energy.” Traci Chapman
*DISCLAIMER: Presuming you are a relatively normal, emotionally healthy, mostly civilized human being (i.e. you did not behave in some outrageously inappropriate way immediately after “Hi. My name is ___.”).
Moon In Selene 
This came at a good time for me. I recently left a relationship that was becoming possessive and abusive, and for the first time I began asking myself if what he says is true. I mean, I wouldn’t like the person he says I am. But then I realize he’s reflecting on himself through me, and those things he doesn’t love about himself. I’m happy to have set healthy boundaries, and I thank you for this reminder.
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