We all have touchstone people; we think about them, we miss them, we love them – they make us laugh, scream, and cry – and our lives are better for knowing them.

This weekend is an excellent time to visit with these friends; the people who genuinely understand who we are, what we are about, and are not afraid to call us out when we stray too far afield. The energy this weekend may be easier to bear if we share it (while mileage may vary, it is happening to everyone). 

For info on this weekend’s energy, please see:  http://urbantaroist.com/2016/04/01/0401-0316-weekend-three-of-swords-king-of-pentacles-seven-of-cups/ 

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))

Sometimes, we find ourselves in a space we never imagined, grappling with thoughts and feelings we could not understand, explain, explore or resolve.

Relationships take many forms with various people (friends, lovers, family), places (zoo, train station, Chinese restaurant), events (weddings, funerals, baseball games), each with its own place in the heart, pull on the soul, and dance in our thoughts. This can be joyous or saddening, liberating or frustrating – many delightful experiences withstand the test of time but so often, they do not. So often, something is lost. 

No one likes loss. No one enjoys unresolved feelings. No one wants an abrupt cut-off. We use words such as “closure” and “resolved” and “ended” to suggest clean finality….but really, how often do we have such a thing as clean finality? If we are honest, we must admit, almost never. At the risk of sounding like a Disney princess, the only right answer is “OFF WITH THEIR HEADS!” Wait…sorry. Wrong post. No, the only correct approach is to “Let it go.”

“Let it go. Let it go? Oh, let it GO! What a great idea! Why didn’t I think of that?” Hrmph! Clearly, so much easier to say than to do. And yet, it really must be done. How? Different methods for different people. Following are some suggestions:

Write a letter: Believe it or not, a great many people find the closure and release they need by writing a letter they will never send. The beauty of this is you can absolutely empty your heart on the subject – no detail left out, no hurtful words edited. For a witchy twist, once the letter is written and signed, give it a kiss good bye, take it outside, burn it and scatter the ashes. “I am released from this heartache, now and always.”

Visualization: Imagine the issue clearly and in full color; picture it shrinking, getting smaller, and smaller, and smaller until it disappears with a satisfying little “pop” noise. Alternatively, you can see it in a bubble, floating away towards the cosmos, where it disperses harmlessly among the stars with no hope of reforming.

Have a chat: Speak out loud to the source of your sadness – have both sides of the conversation if that works for you – and conclude by agreeing the relationship has come to a natural end and now must be not only concluded but completely released. End the conversation by wishing the “other” a positive existence as surely your own will be.

Whatever method you choose, it can only work if you are committed to letting go; if you allow yourself to be held hostage, no technique will you free you. Only you can do that. 

Be happy. Be safe. Be well. 

Love and Light to you.

Selene.

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Generally, I have no problem speaking for myself – never a shortage of things to say, seldom at a loss for the right words. But sometimes, someone else seems to know exactly what to say about how I feel and what I think – proving the common experience bonding us rather than seperating us. This post has been recreated from a Facebook post on Sageword (please check it out, I often find lovely, poignant, moving posts and lovely art on their page).

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me” ॐ heart emoticon

Good night with Love and Light!

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You are going to need as much centering, grounding, and peace as you can find. Start within and share without; do not allow outside forces to dissuade you from seeking balance and calm – you need not attend every argument presented to you. 

Enjoy today – it is a gift!

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))

((All images courtesy of Google Images and Facebook.))